tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21671674.post2412367040144111620..comments2023-07-04T09:13:20.827-06:00Comments on Kami's Khlopchyk: Report Cards, To Reward or Not To RewardKamis Khlopchykhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10891667631830654830noreply@blogger.comBlogger14125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21671674.post-45759923767778175582010-11-28T06:36:40.682-06:002010-11-28T06:36:40.682-06:00I wish it always worked that way. Sadly, all I got...I wish it always worked that way. Sadly, all I got was their happiness and it wasn't enough. My grades started slipping around 8th grade and I didn't have any motivation to get good ones anymore. Money or a privilege would have helped me with my middle-child loosey-goosey tendencies. I know it would have.<br /><br />THAT SAID: what are grades, anyway? As a homeschooling mom, I internally laugh at "good grades." They are just a marker from Da Man on whether or not the system likes the way your kids respond to questions. If my kids understand the information, THEN I'm happy. <br /><br />Dude. It's 6 am and I need coffee...tracey.becker1@gmail.comhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09606831315390042198noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21671674.post-22532370918452607172010-11-21T22:20:20.337-06:002010-11-21T22:20:20.337-06:00I completely agree and your friend is spot on! As ...I completely agree and your friend is spot on! As are you.<br /><br />And the friggin' pencils are driving me crazy TOO!!!!Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01044279582701415786noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21671674.post-30686766498005627842010-11-20T11:50:49.001-06:002010-11-20T11:50:49.001-06:00I reward my kids with a big hug, smile and words o...I reward my kids with a big hug, smile and words of encouragement at report card time.<br /><br />I was never rewarded for good grades as a kid. My mom, however, gave each kid cold hard cash when she saw their reports this term - one buck per year of age per kid. Too funny :)! The kids thought it hilarious, but they don't expect it at all. <br /><br />My kids' halloween bags sit gathering dust. And yet when we're at the supermarket cash, the girl still wants a kindersurprise. You can't win.<br /><br />I love the boys' work - so cute!Karen MEGhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10834425321020756655noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21671674.post-2159665297124593432010-11-19T14:22:34.224-06:002010-11-19T14:22:34.224-06:00I think you have the right idea and definitely for...I think you have the right idea and definitely for kids - making your parents proud should be the goal because in reality, if they are doing that, then they are going to benefit themselves in the long run (although I'm sure they don't realize or understand that yet) and I think that is where the parents' true pride is derived from. Great post and great comments!AuntyTeenihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09520862121469409503noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21671674.post-10193238245214199712010-11-19T10:09:36.782-06:002010-11-19T10:09:36.782-06:00I think we're always different. I definitely ...I think we're always different. I definitely agree with you 100% though. I don't remember what I got when I was a kid - only my dad telling me that he was proud of me.<br /><br />We sometimes take Kaylie for dinner on report card day, but not every time - I think more as a celebration of the completion of a term than because she "did well". And it's usually just McDonald's. <br /><br />:)Jen Wilsonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05948927699854039832noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21671674.post-26890765911385447992010-11-18T22:40:21.069-06:002010-11-18T22:40:21.069-06:00I don't think I will be rewarding my kids. My...I don't think I will be rewarding my kids. My praise should be enough, lolLaura Marchanthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07878325934353943862noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21671674.post-1361977053787903092010-11-18T22:13:01.982-06:002010-11-18T22:13:01.982-06:00My parents were strongly against "paying"...My parents were strongly against "paying" us for our grades. They felt that praise was what we needed, encouragement on the things that were tough and the right to phone every relative in their address book to share the news. Our report cards were always a super big exciting thing to my parents and my Mom always made a special report card day dinner, so we could talk about school and stuff. Then at the end of the year we went to Dairy Queen for a blizzard (because seriously what else would you eat at Dairy Queen?) and she would again reiterate how proud they were that we'd face another challenge and suceeded in whatever capacity that was.<br /><br />Those are good memories and ones I plan to pass on to our kids. I have a cousin who rewarded her daughter (who is yet to reach 13) with an ipod two years ago for good grades, last year was forced (her word not mine) to upgrade that to a laptop and this year it looks like an ipad maybe. I'm pretty sure by the time her daughter, who's greed is mounting turns 18 she'll own a portion of the Parliment Buildings at this rate. In my over opinionated books it's flat out disgusting and is sending the message of worth being in what you have not in who you are and what you can do.<br /><br />Bet you didn't plan to open that whole can of worms today did ya?Ashleyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10102106102102901103noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21671674.post-7835017380451000482010-11-18T20:10:32.559-06:002010-11-18T20:10:32.559-06:00I'm with you 100%, big hugs, dinner and a &quo...I'm with you 100%, big hugs, dinner and a "well done" is what they deserve in my books!Cherylhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16013429267019966644noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21671674.post-45055413936735268652010-11-18T19:38:15.553-06:002010-11-18T19:38:15.553-06:00I would never pay my kids money for a good report ...I would never pay my kids money for a good report card, but we did take both boys out for a family dinner after their reports earlier this year. Mostly because of Tyler's self-esteem issues and how we have been trying really hard to get him to believe in himself and have confidence. Of course we couldn't just take Tyler because he had specific needs, so we made it a fun night out and my parents came too. I doubt the boys will "expect" this to happen every year, but we take them out for dinner every so often anyway. It was more like having an excuse to go out to eat!!<br /><br />More importantly, we told them that we were very proud of them and pleased with their hard work. We made sure that their grandparents read their reports and knew how hard they had been working.<br /><br />I kind of feel that it depends on your child(ren), too. I have a job. I work full time as a writer, and I am a mother. I get rewarded for my writing job, with a nice pay rise and bonus at the end of every year (I don't count my weekly salary as a reward). I am rewarded for my job as a mother when my kids and/or hubby make me breakfast in bed or write me lovely notes, or tell me I am awesome. I don't work harder at either job just so I can get the rewards, but they make it a lot sweeter.<br /><br />So that's kind of how I look at things. My boys know that we expect them to work hard at school, and they don't do it just so they can go out for dinner. They do it because they want to make us proud.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21671674.post-45959727155954729942010-11-18T17:20:40.974-06:002010-11-18T17:20:40.974-06:00cute projects. And I agree that children should n...cute projects. And I agree that children should not be "paid" or rewarded for a good report card. it should be I do a good job because that is what I'm expected to do... even more because that is what I want to do. I stay stick with your guns on this oneLorihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12688642209556861948noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21671674.post-51834080951146044572010-11-18T16:08:57.035-06:002010-11-18T16:08:57.035-06:00I've never heard of rewarding them for their r...I've never heard of rewarding them for their report cards - people may do it but we sure don't.<br /><br />And your kids get candy at school on Halloween? They don't do that here at all...so we go trick or treating. :)Angellahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04084789720358907986noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21671674.post-67949314833175683362010-11-18T15:35:08.468-06:002010-11-18T15:35:08.468-06:00We don't reward it with material things either...We don't reward it with material things either. Sometimes we will surprise them with a treat (dollar movie, ice cream) that is for doing a good job in general. I never got paid for my good grades. I got praise and that was good enough. <br /><br />I thought it was hilarious that your son said he was good at beating up his brother! Sounds like my husband and his brother.nicolehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06605426195521274662noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21671674.post-68914248959686363922010-11-18T15:29:36.443-06:002010-11-18T15:29:36.443-06:00We don't reward either. Lots of praise and te...We don't reward either. Lots of praise and telling them how proud we are.<br /><br />We do go out for dinner on the last day of school as more of a celebration than a reward. Just kicking off the summer holidays!Jenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07002778284055350042noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21671674.post-15072759520966487492010-11-18T14:59:27.499-06:002010-11-18T14:59:27.499-06:00i feel the same way....
usually get caught (now th...i feel the same way....<br />usually get caught (now that they are older...and smart alecks more) in the saying...<br /><br />kids...it's your JOB to do well in school...<br />in which they reply..."shouldn't we get PAID for doing our JOB?"<br /><br />HA. NO. SILLY SILLY KIDS.<br /><br />I feel the same about chores. I will not pay my child to clean his or her room. Or to help clean off the dinner table...common sense and respect says you should keep your things nice and help your mom by taking your plate to the sink...<br /><br />whoa. few days away from blogging and a good topic and look at me goooooooAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10327991964710241536noreply@blogger.com