Monday, January 07, 2013
Change Takes Commitment
2013 had a bit of a rough start for me in my second gig as a personal trainer. I don't want to talk about the situation in detail because that's not cool. And those of you whom are my confidantes are likely sick to death of hearing about it already. I have to give a shout out to you all though, you all know how to do the support and advice part of friendship right. Thank you from the bottom of my heart.
My first client broke up with me. Before I started this new adventure, I thought I would feel like a total failure if that ever happened. It turns out I was wrong. The break up was mutual. I let the client make the first move though because I am, after all, the "professional". The jury is still out on that, hence the quotes.
I don't feel like a failure because this actually isn't really about me at all. Okay a little bit, but I will get to that later.
My experience is fairly limited in that from the perspective of someone starting on a journey to getting fitter and healthier, I have only my own to draw from.
By the time I started working with a trainer, I had made the commitment to make it happen. It being the journey to fit. It's not a destination, it's a journey that I began five years ago and continues to this day.
So when I came to my workouts, I was ready, willing and going to do whatever was asked of me. Except when the nausea set in because, of course, that was my body saying "that's my limit" thankyouverymuch.
I wanted to be pushed past what I thought was possible for me. And I was almost every time. I kept getting stronger and it would take more to challenge me and I loved every minute of it.
Okay, maybe I am weird but I also happen to know a lot of other people who feel the same way.
To this day I love the strength and endurance my body can handle. I would say with ease but that would be a bold faced lie. But the key is that what it can handle now with a bit of duress is about 100 times more than it could way back then. I think I did a total of three push-ups during my first fitness assessment, and I am probably inventing two of the three. The other day, I did 30 consecutively.
In the meantime, I have become a runner, completing two half marathons, about five 10 km races and at least as many relay races. Five and half years ago, I would have laughed like a hyena if you told me that I would do that. Hysterically.
My point, right, I should get back to that. My point is that if you want to make a change, whatever it might be, lose weight, get fitter, make a pinata, or remove the possibility of being on an episode of Hoarders, you have do the work. With a smile. And the smile comes with the fact that you know, despite how hard it is, that this pain will get you closer to that goal.
And tasting that goal is a reward so sweet you will have a bounce in your step and grin on your face for a month.
I know from experience. So trust me a little, okay? Just a little. But more importantly believe. Believe in yourself. Believe that the work will get you there. Not today, not tomorrow but slowly and surely and safely.
And when you are working out, building a pinata, or cleaning out the pile of stuff that is beginning to resemble an application to be on Hoarders, give it your best effort. No excuses. Excuses are just you standing in your own way.
And if someone is helping you out, your trainer, your glue maker, or your daughter who can no longer come visit because the couch has disappeared, make sure that your personalities gel. If they annoy the snot out of you from day one, they are probably not going to be able to motivate you. Oh and this can be measured in direct proportion to the number of eye rolls and critical comments you direct at them, just in case you were wondering.
That's where this whole break up was about me. Personalities are personalities and if they do not work together, they just do not work. It's not you, it's me....or actually it's both of us. So there is no feeling of failure because that is out of my hands just like the level of commitment and self-belief of the client.
It's part of the gig. I was a bit naive going in but this was a great learning experience. And I will appreciate my other clients (Hi C & RL, you rock!) and my trainer even more (she kicked my butt today and I loved it from the bottom of my heart).
Amended to add this very fitting quote:
"What if I told you that ten years from now, you life would be EXACTLY the same? I doubt you would be happy. So why are you so afraid of change?" - Karen Salmansohn