Thursday, January 07, 2010

The Importance of Mom

Once, my Auntie Vicki (my mom's sister) got my mom a shirt that read:

Mother and daughter by chance, friends by choice.

This statement pretty much sums up my relationship with my mom. A relationship that has grown and evolved (I still think Darwin was on to something, yo) over time.

In the beginning she was on a pedestal. I was four and she knew it all.

Then I was 14 through 18 and what did she know?

Then I was 24 and darn it all if she didn't seem to know more than I once thought.

And at 27, when I became a mother myself, she was my rock. I think she wondered where her rational, level headed daughter went since a neurotic first time mother replaced her for a bit.

As my boys get older, I find myself uttering the very same things I heard in my childhood:

"Why don't you sit with us here at the table instead of at the neighbors."
(pull your chair closer to the supper table)

"Close the door, were you born in a barn?"

"The cupboards are flying away again, why can't you shut the cupboard doors after you are finished unloading the dishwasher?"

Okay, so I haven't yet uttered the last one but I foresee it being said in the near future. Basically, I am my mother incarnate. We both get riled at certain things, different things for sure, but when we are riled, the world will know. She doesn't have a blog but damn if she did there would be some stellar rants, let me tell you. I have her gift of that I am certain.

The moral of this post, (can I pretend that I have the skills to include a moral into my post?) is that I have had an amazing role model in my mom. She is always true to herself. She refused to take the easy way out when raising us. I, for one, think she did a stellar job.

And for all of this I am thankful for many reasons. For one, that she gave me the skills to be an independent resonsible adult and because by being a great mother to me, I have the skills to give it my all as a mother to my boys.

This post needs a picture and I vow that soon, I will get a good one of the two of us because be darned if I remember a picture of just me and my mom. I definitely don't get my narcissistic need for self portraits from her.


Angella said...

Aw, your Mom sounds rad. And she must be, if she's anything like you. :)

Stacie's Madness said...

yep. my mom went from really my being one of the smartest women I know...and has taught me that we all make mistakes, it's what we do with our life AFTER those mistakes that matters more than how we got into those mistakes to begin with.

Lori: Teacher Turned Mommy said...

I find myself quoting my mom too. My mom and I are friends and that is a great thing. Glad you have a mother whom you wish to model after

Debbie said...

I've had a similar relationship with my Mum. Now we go on yearly excursions together for some girl-time!

It's great that your mother is someone you admire.

Anonymous said...

Um, ditto!

I'm just like my Mum. And I think she's awesome. Does that mean I think I'm awesome?? Hmmm ... That's not really what I meant, but I think you know where I'm coming from!

Such a sweet post! I'd love to see a photo of you & your Mom. You might have to just take one specially!


3LittleMonkeys said...

What a wonderful post! It's great to have such an amazing relationship with your mom. I also have a great relationship with my mom...the saying at the top of your post says it all!

R Royal Family said...

here here. As one who is lucky enough to know your mom irl she is pretty great!

Elaine A. said...

I'm so glad that you and your Mom have such a great relationship and that you KNOW how much she's been and done for YOU.

And yes, picture please! : )

teeni said...

Aw, what a nice post! Please when you get that pic of the two of you, don't forget to thank your mom from me for bringing my wonderful friend into this world and helping to shape her into what she is today. Hugs!!!!

Karen MEG said...

I find myself getting more and more like my mom as I get older ... which I finally am starting to admit is likely a good thing (guess I'm finally growing up!). I love how you've described her in this post.

Your mom sounds amazing - can't wait to see a pic of you two ladies together!

Tracey - Just Another Mommy Blog said...

:) I'm my mother, too. It's sweet and scary all at once...

Ed said...

It's kind of funny. I hear myself repeating things my mother said all of the time. Even things I know she never said--I hear her tone.